of Existential Coaching
The overarching aim of Existential Coaching is to facilitate the
means by which clients become much more explicitly aware of their
unique and underlying worldview in order that they may be more able
to "own" and challenge the ambiguities, contradictions
and paradoxes that both structure and maintain it. Through this
focused investigation, the lived and felt concerns which unnecessarily
influence and impact upon a client's stated goals and aspirations
can be highlighted and, in turn, their influence minimised or defused.
clarificatory approaches underpin Existential Coaching's way of
doing and thinking about life issues that is derived from existential
Coaching aims to be an extremely straightforward, practically-minded
and attractive approach whose ideas require very little in the way
of "meta-analyses" nor rest upon numerous questionable
and unnecessary assumptions regarding unseen and unknown mental
agencies that influence, if not control, our thoughts and behaviours.
Coaching focuses upon the various stances we adopt in order to find
meaningful and secure relations with ourselves, others, and the
world in general. In doing so, it examines and exposes how these
very same relational strategies may be provoking the current uncertainties
and dilemmas that have arisen in our lives.
Coaching helps clients to clarify and reconsider the meanings and
values given to the various inter-relations that make up their personal
and professional lives. Through this exploration, clients can be
empowered to assess more honestly and accurately how the relational
stances that they adopt are impacting upon the quality and enjoyment
of their lives.
Specifically, Existential Coaching considers three main forms of
inter-relations: I-focused relations - which deal with and expose
the vast array of assumptions, judgements, values, beliefs and fears
we hold about ourselves (the "I"). You-focused relations
- which deal with and expose the vast array of assumptions, judgements,
values, beliefs and fears which we hold about how others view and
relate to us or who they "want us to be" (the "you").
And, We-focused relations - which deal with the immediate and currently-experienced
way of being that exists in the present encounter between persons
and which may contradict, as much as they might conform to, our
pre-set stances toward "I" and "you" (the "we").
Coaching's challenging exploration of these three focus points in
any interaction has been shown to be the critical variable in promoting
ameliorative benefits for our clients. Just as pertinently, the
gains derived from this structured examination of our clients' lives
are typically experienced as "life-lasting" and as stimuli
to a rich and responsible reassessment of their various relations,
goals and overall life-direction.